Peeve (not pet)

  • Nov. 16th, 2009 at 11:07 PM
wtf
I see and hear this a lot, and it bothers me (on the web, in conversations, etc.).

When someone shares a story where they've overcome something (addiction, major or minor), or accomplished something, a lot of mere acquaintances and even *complete strangers* will say, "I am so proud of you!"

They have no right to be proud of the accomplishments of someone whose achievement has nothing to do with them. It is, in fact, condescending and arrogant to say such a thing to someone under such circumstances.

Congratulations or any variation on that concept are entirely appropriate, but pride? Who the hell do they think you are?

We can be proud of the military on behalf of our country or proud of a member of our government or an Olympian -- they represent us and if they do well, their proud moment is a proud moment for the nation, but I'm not sure even then I'd feel it wasn't presumptuous to, for instance, *say* that to a service-person. "Thank you" -- yes; "Your country is proud of you" -- yes; "I'm proud of you" -- no.

And I started out with such great hopes

  • Nov. 16th, 2009 at 10:44 PM
sigh
My entire shopping venture this evening can be summed up by this exchange at Target:

Clerk: "You want a bag for the bleach?"
Me: "No."
Clerk: (pauses) (puts bleach in a bag)
Me: ...

Not *bad* so much as just really off-kilter. It took me 20 minutes to find where they kept the sponges after I found the cleaning supplies aisle -- which is where the sponges were not.

How I spent my Halloween

  • Oct. 31st, 2009 at 9:52 PM
halloween
I did not wear a costume, but I did get my hair cut on a whim at Ulta. Lovely! I meant to keep going to my old stylist after the move, but she's so far away now and her salon doesn't stay open late, so it isn't all that practical. Meanwhile, my hair was getting hopeless, and now all is well. I really like the cut and the stylist was marvelous.

I had a Halloween party I could have gone to this evening, but I wasn't really in the mood for it. I had a busy week, and I just wanted to be quiet and catch up on errands and watch some TV.

After the impromptu haircut, I went to Target for some basics and then on to Best Buy. However, when I left the mall with the Target, I made a big mistake and thought a lane I pulled into was a turn lane when it wasn't. I basically pulled into oncoming traffic (though there was none, thank goodness) but mostly it was a sort of half-median. The lines had confused me and it was an unfamiliar bit of the road (I usually turn the other way to go home and was turning this way to go to the Best Buy).

NATURALLY, there was a cop behind me somewhere who saw the whole thing, so along with scaring myself half to death, once I got back into the correct lane, I got pulled over. I managed to flail myself out of a ticket by explaining what had happened, but *nerve shattering.*  I suppose that works for a Halloween trick, so I accidentally "celebrated" the day after all.

I went on to Best Buy because the real reason I decided to go out and run errands was to get a new modem/wireless router. The separate modem and router I've had are both 3+ years old, and I'd started having a lot of connection problems involving me re-re-restarting everything multiple times.

So far so good with the new one -- it seems MUCH faster which, of course, makes me annoyed with myself for not upgrading sooner. Still, one piece of machinery vs. two and faster vs. slower and cranky all equal win.

And in the end, there was leftover Aloo Ghobi, so no traffic ticket, faster internet, *and* Indian food?  Happy Halloween! 

Travel Miscellanea

  • Sep. 3rd, 2009 at 11:59 AM
travel
I finally broke down and rebooked my useless ticket to Dragon*Con. With fees, etc., since this was a lowest-of-the-low ticket (no refunds, etc.) meant that it put me up only $60 on the tickets for Norwescon in April, but at least I wasn't out the entire ticket price. The flight prices had gone done for April in the meantime of my dithering, so it ended up being right about where I was thinking it "ought" to be.

So I am now booked for Norwescon in April 2010, and I will not be that irritating never-shows-up passenger they call as they're trying to board the plane today.

Hrm...

  • Jul. 29th, 2009 at 6:25 PM
travel
When I originally looked at rescheduling my flight to Dragon*Con, it looked like I could do it without incurring a fee (and maybe I could have -- then -- but probably not; probably I just wasn't readly closely enough)

So here's my conundrum: 

Let the non-refundable ticket to Atlanta expire and be out the money OR reschedule flight to future con destination in April and pay the fee that leaves me only $60 up on the new ticket; also to consider, current ticket price to April destination seems very high and based on last year's cost, it might be less if I wait to book until later making "saved" $60 seem even more like peanuts.

Phooey.

I think I'm just gonna *let it goooo*

Ah, well. It was a relatively cheap ticket.

PS: To those who were paying attention, I am *not* attending Dragon*Con this year after all; also not going to be at SteamCon in Seattle. This is due to happy condo-buying joyfulness rather to some bummer reason.
cynical
In bold font on envelope:

POSTMASTER: Please rush to addressee.

addressee:

CURRENT RESIDENT

...Yeah, I'll open that right up.

Gordon Brown

  • Jun. 6th, 2009 at 9:04 PM
London

I know my British friends will probably just look at me like I'm insane, and I in no way say this as any kind of approval or dismissal of his actual performance as PM, but y'know?

I frequently feel really sorry for Gordon Brown.

It's probably just that he looks so pathetic, and he does all these dumb things, and rather humiliating things happen to and around him (probably mostly of his own making), and he fumbles around, and everyone around him is falling apart, too, and it's just quite embarrassing. So I feel sorry for him.

Come on, you have to admit he does look like a very sad bloodhound.
 

Update from New Allergia

  • Apr. 30th, 2009 at 9:47 PM
kitty

About ten days into Knowing I'm Allergic To Cats, and I can really tell the various changes I've made are working. I am no longer going through kleenexes like there's no tomorrow. I can breathe with ease most of the time and don't feel like my entire head is stuffed. I don't have inner ear weirdness, nausea, dizziness, etc., from being totally stuffed-up. Keeping the cats out of the bedroom (except Nuala at night) has been, I think, the biggest game-changer, that and the Nasonex.

The weather is hovering on the edge of turning nice, and this evening we got a bit of sun and warm weather after a day of drizzle and gloom. Tomorrow is Wolverine at last, next week is Star Trek for which I've become very excited, and soon after, Up. May will be a great movie month. Yay!

Anime Central is also next week -- I'm hoping that even though it's just started, the new Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood series will have spawned tie-ins and costuming. There hasn't been a really big new anime in a few years -- nothing like FMA or even Naruto as far as being the big thing everyone knows about -- so even a resurgence of an old favorite would be good to get the enthusiasm going.

I finally dragged my butt back to the gym this week (rather literally, for when one sits more than one does anything else, it is la patootie that demonstrates this to the world) and have gone three days in a row. I'm trying to change up my routine in several ways, and though it's only a couple of days in, I can already tell its making a difference. For one, I have more energy: I ran errands after my workout and then, after I got home and had supper, I did the dishes, did some laundry, changed the bedding (something I've been lacksadaisical about but which will now become an at-least weekly thing to keep any dander that does accumulate to a minimum), cleaned the bathroom, and took out the trash.

I recently finished reading the arc version of [info]lisamantchev's sparkly wonderful Eyes Like Stars. I've had the privilege of reading several versions of this book while it was in-progress, and I think it's turned out simply wonderfully. And I still think it has one of the best first lines in the history of ever. I hope you've all pre-ordered it

Now to finish my semi-annual reread of A College of Magics (so much love), and then I'll likely start Laurie R. King's new Mary Russell novel, The Language of Bees -- in which they FINALLY get back to England! YAY!

Thank you, Winter. You may leave now.

  • Apr. 1st, 2009 at 8:44 PM
winter

I'm cold, and they're predicting snow again this weekend. It snowed last weekend. It melted off the next day, but still.

I had a space heater in the kitchen during the really cold days of winter because there was no heater in there and all the cold air just froze this end of the apartment, but I gave that back to my landlord too soon, and now I'm using my little baby space heater at my desk. This is akin to sitting in front of the fireplace. You're too warm on one side and too cold on the other.

I got my hair trimmed up and more highlights done in prep for Norwescon next week and the eyebrows done this last weekend. Cat sitting is arranged. Laundry is done... why does it still have to be a week until vacation starts?

Typos

  • Mar. 10th, 2009 at 10:49 PM
badly written

Sometimes typos are annoying; sometimes they're funny. For instance, I just typed:

"Until Anise appeared as if from thin hair..."

Fun in Groups

  • Mar. 7th, 2009 at 2:44 PM
rain
Director Michael Winterbottom sums up my own viewpoint on the matter (though he is ostensibly talking about filmmaking):

"That's because it's about fun. I always believe that if there are six people in a room it's more enjoyable than if there's a hundred."

Big parties can be a certain kind of fun, but small groups of people relating to each other, relaxing, hanging out, talking, laughing, discussing -- that's real fun.

environment
No, really. It did. In an odd turn of events for Modern Interweb Having of Everything, I cannot find even a snippet from the show to confirm my memory of when it was, I was in college so it was late 80s; I'm pretty sure it was one of the UK Comic Relief specials. [EDIT! It was the HBO Comedy Hour Special "Live! From London" from 1988; Ben Elton has hosting that listed on his website's FAQs, and that matches time, place, and where I think I saw it to a T... still can't find any *CLIPS* but...] It featured acts by Rowan Atkinson, French & Saunders, and lots of others, but what I really remember more than anything is Ben Elton's hosting. He did short bits between each act, and most of them were fantastic.

And one was about toothpaste. Now this comes up because I mentioned another of the bits from this show -- the one about "Mr. Paranoia" which has helped me not to overthink social interactions after the fact ever since, so I guess THAT one changed my life, too [Thanks, Ben Elton!] -- to [info]reddiana, and she demanded the toothpaste story to which I alluded.

This works best with visuals... )

Tarentino-esque

  • Mar. 3rd, 2009 at 10:18 PM
bloody

There's this website called Crackle that's doing original TV programming, and yesterday, a ten-part daily series called "Angel of Death" started. It's written by comics great Ed Brubaker and stars stuntwoman extraordinare Zoe Bell as an assassin whose life suddenly and violently takes a sharp left turn. Contains language, adult situations, and respectable levels of blood and gore, but two 8-minute episodes in, and so far, it's very good. By the end, it'll add up to a shortish film if all the episodes stay around the same length.

It is Tarentino-esque in a lot of ways but also not (less self-aware and ironic; it has more of a... sincere, I guess you'd say, gritty old-school 70s vibe). There are also some nice comics-style presentation tricks that I haven't really seen before in this context. It's cool.

Ebert on Being Anti-Snark

  • Feb. 26th, 2009 at 11:23 PM
clever

I'm an enthusiast. I love things. I can also fall out of love with things, and then in my Mr. Darcy mode, my good opinion, once lost, is lost forever, but even then I usually feel more betrayed than disdainful.

I fully concur with Mr. Ebert's take on the Oscar snark (and with Kenneth Turan's take, excerpted in Mr. Ebert's article). If all you're capable of doing is ridiculing things which probably aren't your cup of tea to begin with, then what good are you?

Not much, kids. Not much.

I have retired from most blog-commenting (a la io9.com and its ilk) and similar venues because it's a tiresome sea of unclever, reflexive snark (someday, I WILL shoot someone who uses the phrase "jumped the shark." And no jury will convict me). All the people out there taking the uncreative, undiscriminating snarking path? They're boring. They're all very, very boring.

But the worst offence I find online and really anywhere is the "I didn't like it, ergo it is bad" approach to critiquing. This stance presumes that the person providing this egocentric opinion is the baseline for all experience. It presumes everything is All About Them.

This is a fundamental thing for anyone presuming to be a critic, and if they do not understand the difference between "I didn't like" and "it was bad" then they need to get out of the business. Things can be wonderful and just not anything the person viewing/reading likes. There is a great deal of stuff out there I don't like but which I can see merit in. There is also a lot of stuff I think is bad (but another thing that will get someone shot by me is using the phrase, "it didn't live up to the hype" as a criticism), but I generally can give reasons having nothing to do with my enjoyment levels as to why I think the thing in question is bad.

In summary, most snark is boring and thoughtless. It should at least be clever; it should also be used against worthy targets and not as buckshot sprayed at anything that moves.

If you can't say something nice, come sit by me, but if you can't say something clever, please leave the internet.

It's the Chicago way

  • Feb. 2nd, 2009 at 9:50 PM
chicago

Actual headline from actual news alert sent to me from the actual Chicago Tribune:

Joey 'the Clown' Lombardo sentenced to life

And now, a textbook example of "pettiness"

  • Jan. 28th, 2009 at 10:29 AM
bastards
Drum major in hot water after nod to Obama

This is why I'm not a joiner. Community groups, homeowner's associations, etc. There are always these psychotically small-minded, controlling people who get involved and pick fights with less crazy people and ruin things for everyone.

I think we as a planet need to just start tossing these anal-retentive jackasses out of any group (especially any *volunteer* group) where they're trying to exert their tyrannical urges.  And if you're the sort who ends up in their posse, encouraging this behavior? You're a jerk, too.

How STUPID can you get?

And no, you control-freak psychos, it is NOT the principle of the thing.

Icon Weeding

  • Jan. 5th, 2009 at 11:08 PM
bring it

I spent a couple of hours tonight weeding out old and adding new icons. There will be a lot of old entries with my default smirk on them now. I love when that happens when there's some specific conversation about the icon in comments or even in the post itself. I also love old posts about new layouts of yore.

Oh, the odd little moments of the ephemeral world wide web.

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